Key To My Life

Every relationship has a reacher and a settler. Says Ted Mosby in "How I met your Mother". Interesting theory. Marshall and Lily start fighting about who among them is the settler and who, the reacher. Interestingly, both of them want to be the settler. At first, it looked understandable, natural. But on a deeper level of thought, I was deep in dilemma. Which one of them am I? Which one of them do I want to be? The reacher or the settler? You would want to be the settler which would mean you are more desirable than your spouse . On the other hand, you should not like to be the loser who had to settle for less. The very fact that someone decided to settle for less removes the superiority/desirability from that person and (s)he cannot be the settler anymore. Similarly, the very fact that the reacher had it in him to reach for his dreams makes him desirable.. The minute you decide that you are a settler, you are reduced to a less desirable person who may not have much ...

As we zoom out into the universe, there unfolds a picture of planetary bodies revolving around a centre in fixed distant orbits. The picture is the same when we zoom in to see the structure of an atom. The electrons revolving around the nucleus in orbits. If I make a sketch of me and my relationships, I get a similar picture. I am the nucleus. The people in my life are the electrons in the different orbits. Every once in a while these electrons can shift orbits and be closer or farther away from me. The people closest to me are the ones in the first orbit. I have a comfort zone with them. The bond is strongest here and it is mutual. And I know they'll stand by me always. They do not jump out with their excess energy to go out of my system. If at all such a thing happens, that is something which will change the very constitution of my existence. The valence electrons could jump out any time. They may be the very interesting category, of people due to their high and unsta...

Back in my engineering college days, I was labelled as the person with the ability to make things come true (unfortunately, only bad things) by saying them. It has happenned more than once that I would make a thoughtless comment and it would just come true. Once a friend(Sankar) was going back home from college and I asked him to drive carefully. He met with an accident on the way. Another time, I asked a friend (Smitha) if she was scared of getting a shock from the various current sources in the electrical machines lab. We were preparing for the exam when I asked her this and she said that she was not scared at all. She really wasn't but she did get an electric shock on the day of the exam. ( Nothing bad happenned but she was convinced that I had the power to make terrible things come true by saying them :D ) There are more, but I'll limit the examples to two. Whenever I think about these incidents, I get stuck in a loop of cause and effect. Could they have been rel...

At this juncture, my groom hunting has lots of things in common with my quest for a nice,decent pair of sandals. My friends know how fussy I am in shopping to get only the perfect ones, be it clothes or sandals or anything. They dread the thought of coming with me to look for a sandal for me. Perfect Sandals For Me, I believe are as rare as a perfect alliance! I have always mercilessly ignored stuff like clothes,shoes if I don't like them cent percent. Even if they are gifts or are carefully handpicked by my parents with lots of love. Now, that could be deadly in the case of a husband.;) My idea of a perfect sandal would be: 1) It should be comfortable to wear. 2) Should look good on my feet. 3) Should not be too expensive. 4) Should last enough I believe, broadly, this would be eveyone's criteria while buying a pair of shoes or sandals, though there could be ppl who dont care about point no:3. But there would be different factors for different ppl for each of these poi...