Key To My Life

Every relationship has a reacher and a settler. Says Ted Mosby in "How I met your Mother". Interesting theory. Marshall and Lily start fighting about who among them is the settler and who, the reacher. Interestingly, both of them want to be the settler. At first, it looked understandable, natural. But on a deeper level of thought, I was deep in dilemma. Which one of them am I? Which one of them do I want to be? The reacher or the settler? You would want to be the settler which would mean you are more desirable than your spouse . On the other hand, you should not like to be the loser who had to settle for less. The very fact that someone decided to settle for less removes the superiority/desirability from that person and (s)he cannot be the settler anymore. Similarly, the very fact that the reacher had it in him to reach for his dreams makes him desirable.. The minute you decide that you are a settler, you are reduced to a less desirable person who may not have much ...

As we zoom out into the universe, there unfolds a picture of planetary bodies revolving around a centre in fixed distant orbits. The picture is the same when we zoom in to see the structure of an atom. The electrons revolving around the nucleus in orbits. If I make a sketch of me and my relationships, I get a similar picture. I am the nucleus. The people in my life are the electrons in the different orbits. Every once in a while these electrons can shift orbits and be closer or farther away from me. The people closest to me are the ones in the first orbit. I have a comfort zone with them. The bond is strongest here and it is mutual. And I know they'll stand by me always. They do not jump out with their excess energy to go out of my system. If at all such a thing happens, that is something which will change the very constitution of my existence. The valence electrons could jump out any time. They may be the very interesting category, of people due to their high and unsta...